This post is dedicated in memory of my father Yaacov Zev Yisreal ben Shmuel.
I’d like to share (or more accurately, reshare) something I wrote this time of year back in 2022, but I have updated the sad statistics for this year.
In other countries, the Remembrance Day (Yom HaZikaron) of fallen soldiers and the Independence Day occur on two separate days of the year (in the US for example Memorial Day is at the end of May and Independence Day is July 4th). In Israel, the Knesset decided that the Independence Day needs to begin the moment that Remembrance Day ends. This is because the State of Israel wouldn’t be able to celebrate its existence if it weren’t for those who gave their lives for it. We wouldn’t be able to have one of those days without the other one. In Israel we honor their memory and everything they fought for, so that the very next day (on Yom Ha’atzmaut), we can celebrate our independence.
Last week we observed Yom Hashoa (Holocaust Remembrance Day) and remembered the 6 million Jews murdered in the Holocaust. Then on Monday we observed Yom Hazikaron (Memorial Day for Israel’s fallen soldiers and victims of terror attacks). According to the statistics published this week on The Times of Israel (TOI), One thousand six hundred soldiers and civilians were killed in combat or by terror since Israel’s last Memorial Day, according to figures released by authorities on Sunday, marking the deadliest year for the country’s security forces and civilians in five decades, and bringing the total tally of casualties to 30,140.
TOI also reported that according to the Defense Ministry, 766 soldiers were killed while serving in the military during the past year (sadly this number has risen higher since that figure was published). Another 61 disabled veterans died due to complications from injuries sustained during their service in previous years, the ministry said.
The numbers brought the total to 25,040 of those who have died during service to the country since 1860, the year from which Israel, and before it the Jewish community in the region, began counting its fallen soldiers.
Amid the ongoing war which began on October 7 with the Hamas terror group’s onslaught in southern Israel, 716 soldiers and members of security forces have been killed. They include 603 IDF soldiers, 39 local security officers, 68 police officers, and six Shin Bet members.
And then on Tuesday we celebrated Yom Ha’atzmaut (Israel’s 76th Independence Day) with song and dance, festive prayer, and music and the waving of Israeli flags and great food (the traditional Sredni family BBQ) and much more.(Although overall the celebrations in Israel were toned down considerably due to the war and the fact that Israel still has over a hundred hostages being held in Gaza).
Anyway, the feeling is that this is all too much and way too close together -especially this tragic year! How can we process all of this in such a short span (just a matter of day)? How can we go from the somberness of Yom Hashoa & Yom Hazikaron straight into the joy of Yom Ha’atzmaut? How do we so quickly make that mental “switch”?
The late Rabbi Dr. Abraham Twerski (a noted Rabbi, psychologist and self-help author) once wrote as follows:
In this week’s Torah porition of Emor we have the mitzvah (commandment) of sefirat ha’omer (counting the Omer). God instructed the Jews to count forty-nine days, and this would then lead to the revelation and giving of the Torah at Sinai.
There were many miracles at the exodus, but the greatest miracle of all was that a people that had been enslaved, degraded, and dehumanized were able, within a few short weeks, to be transformed to the highest level of spirituality, to declare “We will do and we will listen. (Naase ve’nishma)” How could so radical a change be achieved?
The answer is the mitzvah of sefira, to count one day at a time, and on each day, rectify a particular spiritual shortcoming. The Torah is teaching us that no challenge is so great that it cannot be successfully overcome if only it is broken down to manageable morsels.
The yetzer hara (evil instinct) tells a person, “There is no way you can be a tzaddik. The Torah’s demands cannot possibly all be met.” Our response should be, “I only have to do that today, and that is manageable. I’ll deal with tomorrow’s challenges tomorrow. One day at a time.”
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I believe that’s also the answer also to the emotional roller coaster ride we have all been on since October 7th through Yom Hashoa and Yom HaZikaron only to immediately (the very next day) celebrate the joyous Yom Ha’atzmaut.
Yes, taken as one block this is all too much to consume. True, it is difficult to just flip the the switch from being somber to celebrating, but we are able to make such a switch because we take each day for what is, days of memorial and then a day of celebration. One day at a time.
When I was doing my MA in Creative Writing at Bar-Ilan University some years ago, we had a class on Jewish-American literature and the question was asked ‘What makes someone a ‘Jewish-American writer’?
After a long debate, we reached the conclusion that it was not the “Jewish” or “American” part that was interesting but the hypen the “-” in between the words that was fascinating.
If I may apply that logic to Yom Hazikaron-Yom Ha’atzmaut, what makes us, the people of Israel in the independent State of Israel tick is that same hyphen which represents the “switch” that we flick from going from Rememberance to Independence. Rabbi Twerski was right about “one day at a time” but when one day finishes we know how to make that difficult flick of the switch to the next one, the one of celebration.
Shabbat Shalom